Self Love is Essential to Create a Life that Works

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Self Love is the Foundation or Keystone to Create a Life that Works

My name is Bill Austin and I am a spiritual healer, teacher and author living in St Petersburg, FL in the United States. One of the major reasons clients come to me is to help them to heal low self esteem and to increase their self love.

I feel that a lot of people flounder when they try to improve their quality of life because they do not have enough self love, esteem to, confidence and worth to create a life that works. Self love, esteem, acceptance and worth are the foundations or keystone to creating a great life for yourself and your loved ones. The outer world mirrors back your inner reality and if you do not love yourself at the core, you will not be loved and supported in the outer world. The core of self love and self esteem is about living an empowered life with passion from your heart. It is about living authentically and honoring who you are and wisely using your time and energy.

The way I view the world is that we all have the power to create a life that works and supports us on all levels. But most people either don?t love themselves or are so unclear about what they want to create that their creation energy is too scattered to generate consistent results. You have to change who are inside to create a better outside and a lot of times what this means is that you need to get as clear as you can be and release the old patterns, programs, fears and self sabotage that stop you from loving, trusting and accepting yourself. I urge each of you to commit to honoring and loving yourself more and more each day.

When you do not love and honor who you are, often you give away your power to others. So the first step to building more self esteem and self love is to reclaim your power and live more authentically. People without a solid core of self love and high self esteem often value other people more than they do themselves and thus they spend much of their lives trying to please their partners, employers, family and friends. Whenever we look outside of ourselves for validation and approval, we give away our personal power to others. When you live out of alignment with who you truly are inside then often you will burn out or feel emotionally numb and disconnected. This is not a good space to determine what your passion is - which is often the first step to creating a life that works.

People who do not love themselves often spend their lives doing things that they feel they ought to do or feel they should do rather than what brings them joy. So another way to build self esteem and self love is to identify what your passion is or what you came here to do and begin doing it! The clearer you are about your passion, the more focused your creation energy will be. For example my passion in life is to create beauty and to help people to create a life that works and supports them on all levels. You may want to create a vision or mission statement for yourself. Focus on the vision or what you want to achieve NOT how it will happen. Let the Universe determine the best way to create something

Another great way to develop self love, esteem and confidence is to identify your strengths and gifts that can most help you to do what you came here to do. Some of my strongest strengths, for example, would include things like being very action oriented; able to easily absorb, assimilate and apply vast amounts of information; able to download and create healing sessions and able to infuse healing and enlightenment energies into art, music and products. Often your strengths are tied to your major passions in life so if you feel stuck in this area, look at what you feel passionate about. Often children have more self esteem and self love than adults do so think back to your past and what you loved to do when you were a child. When I was a child I loved to read and hang out in nature and travel and I still do. What did you LOVE to do when you were a child?

Most of my clients who have low self esteem or self love are working in jobs that are not aligned with who they are. If you do not love yourself, you are very likely to attract jobs where you are not honored and respected for who you are since you do not love and honor who you are. People now often spend more time with co-workers than with families so this is an important area to look at. Begin creating a vision statement of what your ideal job would look like. Make sure it is something that you would LOVE to do and that it is a job where you will be honored for who you are. Make sure it is a job that engages your heart and is aligned to your soul.

Once you begin increasing your levels of self love, esteem, confidence and worth, your outer world will begin to change as well. The next part to creating a life that works is to take appropriate action. Once you clear, purify and set your intent; focus on your strengths; eliminate fear, doubt, self sabotage and weaknesses, then you will begin attracting opportunities to you to help you reach your goals. People may leave your life and your job may change. This can be a little scary because often there is a lag between your old non self loving life and your new self loving and supportive life. Try to let go and release things and people in your life. It sounds strange but the more you can love and accept where you are right now, the sooner you will attract a better life for yourself. You may need to do some inner work around forgiveness.

When you are doing a lot of inner work to build self esteem and self love you may need to take some outer world action as well. My personal experience has been that after I do a lot of inner house cleaning that I almost always have to do something on the action plane to create a better life for myself. I live my passion more than most but I spend a lot of time playing with projects and activities around my vocation. It doesn't feel like work to me, however, since most of what I do is aligned with my passion and who I truly am. If the action you feel led to do feels like work it probably is NOT something that you should do.  

There is a fine line here because most of us have some resistance to change and doing something different often pushes us outside of our comfort zone. Change on the inside creates new opportunities on the outside but often people miss out on them because they are waiting for things to just pop into manifestation without any effort on their part. When I set the intent to make a change, I look at everything that manifests in that area or aspect of my life because often the answers to what I am seeking to attract do not appear in the way I expect. The universe has a bizarre sense of humor.  Pay particular attention to obsessions that pop up.

A fun exercise for all of you would be to ask yourself the questions:

How committed am I to honoring and loving myself?

What ways do I give away my power to other people?

What are my passions in life, my biggest strengths and the things that I love to do?

What areas of my life hold me back from accepting, loving and honoring myself?

Is my job aligned with my heart and soul? Does it bring me joy?

Am I ready to forgive myself, others and Spirit and release my past?

What do I feel drawn to do in the NOW to make my dreams come true?

And if you are feeling really brave, ask your partner and best friend what they feel the answers to these questions would be.